Updated: Oct 28, 2021
When thinking of parenting styles, we think of the different approaches that we need to keep this in mind while raising our kids most beautifully.
Well, this article is a guide to know the nuances of parenting styles.
According to Henry Ward Beecher, “we never know the love of a parent till we become parents ourselves.”
Developmental Psychologists believe that there are links between parenting styles and the effects these styles have on the children and later into their adult behavior. However, there are chances that children raised in altogether different environments can later grow up to have similar personalities. On the other hand, children living in the same home can grow up to have very different personalities.
The concept of parenting styles was first introduced by Diane Baumrind in the 1960s which aimed at explaining how differently parents attempt to control and socialize their kids.
Do they show lots of affection or reserved behavior or strictness? What do they expect blind obedience, or do they encourage their kids to ask questions? The list goes on. However, in this article, we have tried to solve all your queries about parenting styles and their nitty-gritty.
So, based on the studies of psychologists Diane Baumrind, Maccoby and Martin there are four basic parenting styles.
1. Authoritative parenting: These are the parents who want their kids to become responsible, to think for themselves, and try to make them consider the reasons for rules.
2. Authoritarian parenting: Parents belonging to this category expect their orders to be obeyed without any questions and they prefer punishment to control their kids
3 Permissive parenting: Parents who are responsive and warm but also reluctant to enforce rules.
4. Uninvolved parenting: Parents who offer their kids little emotional support and fail to enforce standards of conduct.
Now, that you know about the four parenting styles let’s dive deep to get insights from these studies to figure out what we have learned from these studies and research.
Key takeaways and impact of these parenting styles:
Researchers based on their studies came with some findings of the impact of parenting styles on children. The key takeaways from these findings are:
*Authoritarian parenting styles make children obedient and proficient, but they rank lower in happiness, social competence, and self-esteem.
*Authoritative parenting styles are likely to result in kids who are happy, capable, and successful.
*Permissive parenting makes children rank low in happiness and self-regulation. They will have problems with authority and are likely to perform poorly in school.
*Uninvolved parenting styles rank lowest in life. They make children lack self-control, have low self-esteem, and feel less competent than peers.
Now, let me explain to you the key takeaways from the parenting styles with two hypothetical characters, John and Bob.
John’s parents follow the authoritative style and provide John with rules as well as explanations for these rules. John can understand that the rules are fair and acceptable, so strives to follow these rules.
On the other hand, Bob's parents follow the authoritarian style, so Bob simply follows the rules as he fears punishment. Bob is obedient but ranks lower in happiness and has low self-esteem.
There is no “best” style of parenting as the author Douglas Bernstein writes in his book “essential of Psychology”. The parenting styles of individual parents can also be combined to create a unique blend in every family.
For example, a mother may display an authoritative style while a father favors a more permissive approach. It is essential that parents follow a cohesive approach and learn to co-operate and combine their unique parenting styles.
Apart from the parenting styles, other important factors including culture, a child’s temperament, and social influences play an important role in a child’s behavior.
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